Dear Family and Friends,
After three years and eight months, we are moving back to you. Our move is full of emotion and anticipation. We are excited to see you and, to once again, create our home in B’town.
But, I need you to understand that this is going to be a very difficult time for us. We are leaving our family and friends in Germany and are having to say good-bye to our home, knowing we will not return. We will be sad. This is not a reflection of you, we love you, but we are mourning the loss of what we left in Germany. We hope that we can count on you to support us as we repatriate into our American life.
We will need you to listen to us, even if you don’t want to hear how great life was in Regensburg, we will need to talk. Please, ask us about our experiences, what we liked, what we did, what our life was like. Ask us about our friends and our travels. Listen when we talk to you about our former life, it is what defined us for 44 months and has molded us into who we now are.
Life in Germany is the only childhood the tartlets remember and the kiddos probably won’t remember you, please do not be offended. They were 3 and 6 when we moved and have lived quite a life since they’ve been gone. We will all need to get to know you again, family and friends, and you will need to reacquaint yourselves with us as well.
Yes, we are moving back to the same house in the same city, but we aren’t the same and neither are you. This isn’t a bad thing, it’s change – and change happens whether you want it to or not. All five of us are older and wiser. Our families’ views have been broadened. We see life, our country, the world through new eyes.
Please remember, we are starting over. The school system will be brand new to us, we’ve been in German schools this entire time. We will not understand the way things work, so please check up on us, ask the kiddos how they are doing, if they have questions. Invite us to meet other families in the area. We will feel like outsiders.
Shopping and the laundry list of things to do will be overwhelming. If you call and we don’t call back, don’t give up on us. Keep pestering. Stop by – but not just in the beginning… this process will take a long time. We will need to know you care, please don’t assume we already know. If you say “let me know if we can help” – we will be taking you up on your offer.
We will be stressed out with the move, life and the future. Sometimes, we may need space – other times not. Please do not put demands on us, we will try to visit with everyone in due time. We have a lot to sort through and must organize our new life. We love you and know that you are happy we are back. We cannot wait to see you, but know that we probably won’t be doing a lot of travel in the beginning.
Just so you know, we only have 3 weeks from the time the girls end school in Germany until they begin in the States. We will have a total of seven days in our town between the move-holiday-school… our furniture and life will not arrive until the end of August, after school has begun. Can you imagine the whirlwind we will be experiencing?
We are excited to move back and enjoy all that the United States has to offer. We look forward to reconnecting and getting to know you all again. Our repatriation will be a roller coaster of emotions and we hope you are all there to help us enjoy the ride.
The Soon-to-be Ex-expat